‘I caught mate’s partner sucking mystery woman’s toes on holiday – should I blab?’

JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader faced with a moral dilemma. Should she squeal?

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Frisky by the pool

I’ve never liked my co-worker’s flash husband.

So, imagine my surprise to spot the big old show-off groping an extremely attractive woman at my holiday resort.

I’m just back from a week in Tenerife. Our all-inclusive hotel was lush. But what wasn’t so nice was spotting my colleague’s husband sucking his fancy woman’s toes around the pool. They were all over each other in the sea and on the beach too. At dinner he fed her prawns and oysters then I watched them take fizz up to their room. One afternoon I swear I saw them actually bonking on their balcony for all to see.

I had a ring side view from my lounger, and it was definitely him. He is such an egomaniac that he’s never acknowledged me or knows who I am. I’m currently ‘on the jabs’ and have lost loads of weight, plus I’ve dyed my hair blonde. I look completely different. Is it my job to tell my pal the truth when she thinks he’s out in Sweden for work?

JANE SAYS: I think you should keep out of it.

Maybe it was your mate’s husband you saw around that pool or maybe it wasn’t.

Maybe it was simply someone who looked like him?

The problem is that your mate’s marriage isn’t your business. Perhaps they, secretly, have an open marriage and she knows about this other woman. If you front her up, then you could humiliate and embarrass her. You describe her as a colleague. Just how close are you? It’s not as if she’s your bosom buddy – that would be a totally different story. Step back because I’m confident that this will all come out in the wash.

If your input is requested, down the line, you can speak up then.

Silent sex and then he’s off

My new boyfriend and I only ‘double date’ with his brother and his wife. We go to fun places. We visit bars, bowling alleys and the beach but he talks exclusively to his bro while I chat to the wife. Admittedly she’s very friendly but she’s not the reason I turn up.

After each date my guy comes back here, we have sex and then he texts with the details of the next date. Some nights we barely exchange a dozen words as he’s totally silent during sex too.

What’s going on?

JANE SAYS: I wonder if your boyfriend always like to have a ‘plus one’ in tow so that he doesn’t feel like a gooseberry on nights out with his adored brother and his wife.

You can’t allow him to treat you like this. If he’s shy, then he needs to start being honest about that.

Be proactive and insist on some solo dates of your organising and choosing. Sadly, if he’s not interested in getting to know you and treating you like an individual, then he’s not the guy for you. You can’t allow him to use you for soulless sex and convenience – that’s not healthy and it’s not fair.

Purse or nurse

I became single last year and I’m dating again. Disaster. I recently read that unattached men, of a certain age, either want ‘purse or nurse’ and it’s absolutely true. I’m sick of strangers, on a first date, asking about my wealth and others expecting me to care for them – or both!

JANE SAYS: Keep a clear head and don’t allow yourself to be sucked in or used by anyone. Trust your instincts and always walk away when money is mentioned. As for caring for others, forget it. This is your time now. The only person you need to care about is yourself. Fill your time with seeing friends, challenging yourself and having fun. Romance may follow down the line but it’s not important right now.