JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who needs lunchtime sex for the sake of her creative juices
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I do my best work after a bonk
I like to have sex at work. It makes me feel amazing. ‘Post-sex clarity’ leaves me creative, invincible and sharp. All that blood pumping around my body sets me on fire. I stumble back to my desk, buzzing and alert, and do my best work. My boss marvels at how clever I am in the afternoons. He jokes about the whole office having what I have for lunch.
What I have for lunch is my lover, over the sink in the disabled toilet at 1pm. I’m married and he’s single and sneaking off for lunch break sex is our thing. The only problem is that he’s started to feel guilty and says we shouldn’t meet anymore.
But how can we stop when I’ve become addicted to this midday hit and I’ll be nothing in the workplace without it?
JANE SAYS: You and your lover take a huge risk every time you go into the office toilet for sex. I understand that the sneaky sex makes you feel clear headed and alive. You march back into the office on top of the world, but this habit is unsustainable. Inevitably, a colleague will spot or barge in on you and then your credibility will be blown. You may even face the sack for gross misconduct – who knows.
You are married and it’s up to you how you behave but have you stopped to question why you’re cheating on your spouse? Also, you must respect your lover’s plea when he tells you that he’s no longer interested in messing about. I suggest you find a new way of getting your dopamine rush. Perhaps a run or some stretching instead?
He’s obsessed with his ex
My new boyfriend talks about his ex-partner all the time. We go out for a meal, and he goes through the menu picking out what she’d have, then I get a lecture about her various allergies and food intolerances.
On a recent break to the Peak District, I heard all about her allergies, political opinions and sexual preferences. I felt like screaming. I understand that he was cut up when she dumped him. They were due to get married but that was a year ago. What about me? How can I tell him to put a sock in it?
JANE SAYS; I urge you to come clean with this guy. Explain that you like him and wish him well but suggest he gives himself more time to get over his ex. Make it clear that he doesn’t seem ready for a new relationship, that he needs to work on himself first.
The fact is that you can’t take second place to his ex-partner’s memory because you’re a person in your own right. Too much time and energy have already been wasted. Has he worked out why she left and what he needs to look at and change about himself?
Crowded house
My girlfriend won’t do anything without the whole of her family coming too.
Over the summer I organised various trips to the seaside and at least eight extras turned up at a time.
Now I’d like to book a villa for next spring but she’s insisting that the whole clan must be told and included. Help.
JANE SAYS: Is your girl reluctant to spend time alone with you because she finds safety in numbers? Or does she feel obliged to include her extended family because they get jealous or miffed if she doesn’t?
Talk to her and explain that you’d like this next holiday to be just the two of you. If this is a problem, then can she explain why? Does she like you enough to stand up for herself?
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